Rained off my slate roof project, so I'll venture an opinion or two. For the most part, my behavior is very little changed from when Nancy is around, because she often is. She's met some of the guys on this forum and felt perfectly comfortable with them. Those that I've met and she hasn't, I'd be perfectly glad to introduce her to. To me, I don't see much difference. We're there to fish not to have some "freshman at his first frat house party " experience. Doesn't mean you can't have fun and let loose a little bit, but there's limits. At least for some.
I tie herring flies on 5/0 hooks and sharpen the heck out of them. Tuna's seen me chuck some in the Hudson. The gap is about 7/8". They're also about 11" long. On the SR, they'd be wrapped with black estaz and nothing would extend beyond the bend of the hook.
I won't comment at all on limits as they are a hard call. Biologists and hatchery folk lose hair and sleep over it. It's a balancing act between what a fishery can produce and what it can sustain.
Not the least bit useless your ponderings are. It shows you belong to the group of fishermen that truly are just that, fishermen. Which means you are interested, engaged and willing to do the right thing. Getting rarer.