Crazy parents ruin all sports.
Good summary...I have coached multiple levels of baseball and basketball for the last fifteen years and I can attest to that. Also, coaches who do not control their players make for a poor experience. I have witnessed multiple ejections, a pair of keys being thrown at a referee from the top row, multiple parent/coach and parent/administrator altercations on the court mid game and afterwards. I also saw a coach physically wrestle one of his players mid court and remove him from a game. Something about a basketball gym = pressure cooker.
My 2 cents as a coach is that if you are fair with the kids and straight with the parents from the get-go, the experience to be had can be highly emotional at times but always positive for everyone involved in the end. In youth sports my mantra that I preached to the kids was always, in this order:
1.) Have Fun
2.) Work Hard
3.) Learn to play the game the correct way
If you accomplish 2 and 3 with your players then #1 ALWAYS takes care of itself. There is so much to be gained from youth sports. My kids are out of the youth phase but I stay connected with it in various ways. I'm so glad the kids are back in action. I hope we can find a way to continue to make it happen throughout the rest of this mess.
The high school level is more competitive and the gears change a bit towards that competitiveness. But, I still get those kids who may not contribute too much on the diamond or the floor but they bring everything to the experience. I coached a young man last year who moved into the district to live with a foster family. He came from a very rough background. He worked so hard and was so thankful to have a family with our team. He would come up to me and the other coaches after practice every night to thank us and to tell us WE were doing a good job. He didn't see the floor much but he didn't care. What he cared about was the family structure we gave him and the knowledge and security that we had his back no matter what, in the gym and out of it. That is what sports can offer kids and it has nothing to do with the scoreboard or the highlight reel. It was one of the most rewarding experiences of my time as a coach.